IMG_0467 Hi-ya! This is where we've been. Well, we just went there on Thursday. Chris' Mom is in town to help out with the new babe and we decided to high-tail it up to Solvang. Have you ever been? You really must. It's great and only about a 2 hour drive north of LA.
IMG_0435They are famous for these bad boys. Æbleskivers. Yummmm. We have an Æbleskiver pan, you know. We make them every Christmas morning. Delish! We ate here:
IMG_0438 The Red Viking Restaurant. It was recommended by the folks at the Visitors Center and it was pretty darn good. Very authentic Danish food. Very Smorgasbord-y.
IMG_0441There are a ton of windmills in this little Danish town:
IMG_0462 It's so nice to get out of the city once in a while and soak-up all the adorable-ness of these villages.
IMG_0436 We were talking today about how it didn't even feel like we were still in California. Anyway, no trip to Solvang would be complete without getting your picture taken by the life-size clog:
IMG_0443 It's been so helpful having my Mom in town last week and then Chris' Mom here this week. I had a rather telling conversation with my Mom one night when we had run out to the market.

Scene: 9:00 p.m. at the stoplight on Sepulveda Blvd.

Mom: "You'd better lock your doors."
Me: "Huh?"
Mom: "You don't want to get car-jacked."
Me:…."huh? Car-jacked? Are you  serious?"
Mom: "Don't you ever worry about getting car-jacked?"
Me: "No. I've lived in LA for 3 years. The thought of being 'car-jacked' has never once occurred to me."
Mom: "Really? I lock my car all the time."

Me: Mom, you live in Provo, UT.

I've thought about this conversation long and hard and Mom, I think it's time to cut back on the COURT TV. I  love you, really I do.

The next day I noticed my purse had been moved from it's usual resting place (by the front door.) 

Me: "Mom??"
Mom: "I moved your purse so people walking by outside wouldn't be able to see it."
Me: "Because I might get purse-jacked?"

Yes, definitely cut back on the COURT TV.

So guys, I just wanted to say THANK YOU for all your comments as of late- esp regarding those thoughts of having a new babe in the house. I had no idea that I'd ever been feeling those emotions. It still makes me a little sad, but each day gets easier. He just wants our attention so desperately. Chris has been off work since DWTS ended, which has been soo helpful (and now, I'm trying to scheme a way for him not to go back to work until season 7 starts! LOL! Think we can pull it off??) Anyway- you guys are so great. Thanks for being so supportive and helpful.

IMG_0341I can't believe I'm going to say this out loud, but I am REALLY struggling with the name Margot. I never call her that (none of us do). She is referred to as 'the baby.' Someone the other day asked me what her name was and I nervously said "Margot" like, 'is that okay with you???"Just totally unsure of myself. I've just been sick about it. The thing is I don't even know what I would change it to, if we changed it. I think I just like how it looks on paper, with the 'T'  at the end, but the 'T' is silent (unless you are my 85 year old Grandma Betty who pronounces it with the 'T'). Oy vei. All the stress has turned me Jewish. I know, it's not too late to change it if I'm not feeling it, but I'm not feeling ANYTHING. I want a name I can feel good and proud about. She needs a name. She's a person, too! Man- this baby business is tough.

Have a lovely weekend!

xoxo

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  1. Azúcar Avatar

    I have a friend who never felt her little girl’s name either–even months and years later she was uneasy.
    So if you’re not feeling it, find something else!!

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  2. Ruthanne Avatar

    I love the name Margot like the ballerina Margot Fontayne. Try saying it with confidence next time someone asks (with a hint of “what you gonna do about it” in your voice!)… it took me a while to get used to my son’s name “Arthur”… I got embarrassed as clearly people hated it and thought it an old man’s name but now he is three I think it is the coolest and people say “wow, great name”….

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  3. tricia Avatar

    I would have never guessed those photos were taken in CA! Naming a baby is hard work. I was in the hospital a week with each of my babies, and every time on my last day there, the nurse would be standing paper in hand waiting for us to choose a name for our baby so I could be released. Finding a name that fits is important!

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  4. Christie Avatar

    I think the name is pretty, but if you don’t LOVE it I think maybe you should find one that you do… that’s just my 2 cents…
    We know some people who named their little girl Ginger & then it turned out that she had red hair & so when she was about one (!) they sent all their friends a text message to say that they had changed it… strange. Plus some friends of ours didn’t settle on a name until their bub was 3 months old. I guess it is a BIG thing so you want it to be right!

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  5. miss chris Avatar

    I love the name Margot… but if you’re not digging it, you should change it. What a fun story for her to tell people later. “Well, I was Margot for a couple weeks, but my mom didn’t think I looked like a margot or didn’t like the sound of it and now I’m Penelope”, or whatever. Don’t feel bad about it!

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  6. Mama Urchin Avatar

    Hmmm, not sure what to tell you about the Margot thing. I like the name a lot but it doesn’t really matter if anyone likes if you guys don’t. I’m sure the hormones are contributing to the issue.

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  7. Megs Avatar

    What, no picture of Henry sitting IN the shoe?! What great pics – looks like you had a great time!
    Ruthanne’s comment reminded me of my friend Allegra who was named after a famous ballerina of the time… it’s always been a name I love. Good luck in finding the name that feels the best. These things take time – no worries!

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  8. Kimberly Avatar
    Kimberly

    Gorgeous photos, as usual!!
    I know how hard it is to decide on names. It would be so easy if you had a favorite alternate to go to, but it’s tough when nothing’s calling to you…I love Margot, though! And if she decides to go by her middle name someday (which is what my sister did), I love the name Ryan for a girl, so as far as I’m concerned, she’s got 2 great options!!

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  9. Sarah Babbel Avatar

    Morgs- When I had my 3rd by 2nd child was a nightmare. My mom gave me the best advice. She said, “the baby doesn’t need my attention, give as much attention to the others”. Once I did that, things got so much better. I thought I was going to go postal after I had my 3rd but after talking to my mom it did get better!

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  10. Amy Avatar

    I think Margot is a great name, I think it matches Henry well. But I know what you mean, Helen and Arthur were easy for us because I felt good about naming them after their great grandparents but the other grandparents names we didn’t like. So with Orson it was hard we came up with it because it has the same meaning as Arthur. They both mean Bear. But the first while I would keep slipping and telling people that his name was Oscar. But his name has stuck and I think that it fits him. And with Cedric that was really hard there were no other boy names that meant bear that we liked. And when Reed first mentioned Cedric, I told him no because it’s a Harry Potter name but then the name grew on me and after he was born it fit him better than any of the other names. But when he was about a month old Reed informed me that he doesn’t like the name Cedric but he can live with it because he likes his middle name Asher.k But I totally know what you are going through, it takes awhile to get used to a name and a name is a big thing. Good luck! I do like Margot though.

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  11. Rychelle Avatar
    Rychelle

    My cousin just named her baby Tessalee. I know you mentioned that you guys liked Tess, and that’s what they call her. Anyway, just thought I’d throw that out there. Congratulations on your new addition!

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  12. Casey Avatar

    I think Margot is a really pretty name and not too common, so that’s always good. I love the pictures, my daughter would love that place, she goes nuts over windmills
    I’m like your mom, I worry about being carjacked constantly! well, really only on a couple of roads here. but, I have reasons, people have been carjacked there, even attacked with machetti’s. I don’t want to get hacked at with those.

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  13. melanie Avatar
    melanie

    I can’t remember if I told you this before, but I have a friend whose parents changed her name when she was just over a year old! They changed it from Elizabeth to Liesel and they loved the second name much better. So don’t worry about time — she’s a well-adjusted, successful and perfectly normal girl! I’d say just let the name come to you. I know it makes it rough in the meantime, but hey, “Baby” from Dirty Dancing was like 17 and still called “Baby!” I do still like the name Margot, but if you’re not feeling it, go for something else. I still vote Tessa.

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  14. Michelle V Avatar
    Michelle V

    She is beautiful! How about Ryan Margot? I have a 18 mo. old girl – Jordan and a 3 mo. old boy – Jonah – it took me forever to choose their names. It will come to you. All the best….

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  15. nicole Avatar

    henry is my future son’s name and when i heard margot i immediately asked my fiance what he thought… he wasn’t feeling it but I LOVE IT!
    of course you have to love it the most…i heard rory today and thought that would be a nice compliment to henry and not very common??
    good luck with your decision… you should do what feels right…she will never know the difference and will love that her mommy agonized over finding her the most fitting name.

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  16. Kim Loewen Avatar

    Good luck with the name. It’s hard when you have to love it…I have a cousin named Margo and I always liked it, but it doesn’t matter what others think. And it’s okay to find another name. Love your blog!!
    Kim 🙂
    p.s. I always wanted to visit Solvang when my parents lived in Ventura, but we never actually made it there. It looks amazing though!!

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  17. Charity Avatar

    My husband insisted on Gwenyth for our daughter’s name, and I really resisted. For over a year, I called her Gwen, because I just couldn’t do it. Then, one day, everything changed, and it was good. No idea why, but there it is. I hope you feel a peace about it soon – you can always give her a nickname, and just call her that, for the time being. You might be surprised how things change. :0)

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  18. Sandra Avatar
    Sandra

    Oh what a nice trip. I worked for the Auto Club for many years and would do trip tiks to Solvang. I need to go :)since I’ve never been. It’s so pretty.
    I think you need to feel the name. I too like the idea of Ryan Margot. That is if those are names you want to stick to. It sounds old Hollywood glamour to me. My #4 is Grady Woodrow. I got some looks but, I dig it. Woodrow hmmm. We like it and that’s what counts. Hope this helps.

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  19. Kim Avatar

    Æbleskivers, yum! ESpecially for a nursing Momma who is STARVING all the time. 🙂
    I feel ya, sweetie. I really, really do. 😦 We went to the hospital lab a couple days ago to get a bili test. The check-in desk attendant inevitably asked for sweet babe’s name. When I whispered, “he doesn’t have one yet” for the shear FEAR that all the other new parents in the room would hear and give me that “unfit mother” glare, she busted up laughing. “That’s SOOOO funny!” she practically yelled, as if she took great delight in all the painstaking hours we’ve talked (and BAWLED) about this name thing. So with the most serious, stone-cold expression I could muster, I calmly said, “No. Not really.” Because it’s not.
    Like I said, I feel ya. Will be praying here for you guys as well as ourselves. 🙂

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  20. Shannon Avatar

    For what it’s worth, I think Margot is a beautiful name. Truly. But it’s your opinion that matters. Go with your gut 🙂

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  21. Sara Avatar

    perhaps annoying, but I am hereby sending unto you my name list of what any of my girls would have been since we had a boy. and since we’re unlikely to bump into each other (im in san francisco), i wont worry SHOULD i have a girl on round II. For the record, even though Margot didnt make it on this list, it was only because i didnt think of it. Its a lovely name! 🙂
    story, elsie, avery, grace, hazel, eliza, tate, rose, sophia, gwendolyn, perri, emery, phoebe, betsy, ella, arden, greer, emerson, anna, fiona, lily, violet, claire, paige, ruthie, agnes, hennesy (henny), quincy, mallory, blaire, mathilda, afton.
    Finally, we ended up naming our little guy Race after calling him Benton for 9 mos. in utero. Couldnt have been a more different name, and we werent even sure of that for a few months, but now… it suits him!
    Good luck! Shes gorgeous!

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  22. Shelley Avatar
    Shelley

    She definitely looks like a Margot, but if it’s not working yet, maybe rethink it. We called our daughter “the baby” for a while too although loved her name. It just took a while to start calling her that.

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  23. Amy Avatar

    Lucky duck! Your pics are great. Sounds like your mom is good at keeping you on your toes! Good thing you wrote it down – your kids may want you to reference it in the years to come! hehe=)

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  24. jessica Avatar

    I have that EXACT conversation with my mother almost weekly!!!!

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  25. michal Avatar

    i’m cracking up over grandma betty calling her mar-got. and your mom with the car jacking. do they have many of those in provo? i don’t think i ever locked my front door when i lived in that town. except for possibly when i was in the shower and no one was home. because i watch too much law and order.
    i love the way the t looks, personally. i know someone named margo without the t and i always want to add a t when i see it written down. but it is definitely not too late if you’re not feeling it. no stress, darling. if you come upon a name you like for her better, change it. if not, it means that you are just worrying too much and the name will become her soon.
    i.love.aebleskievers. my great grandma used to make them for us all the time. i have a pan, but rarely break it out. the last time i was in solvang, it was on our honeymoon. too long ago. glad you ate some for me.

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  26. PaperDoll Avatar

    We COULD NOT settle on a name for our sweet baby boy but finally decided to name him Charles Oliver and call him Charlie. I didn’t call him by his name for months. I stumbled over it everytime I tried to say it out loud. I stayed up at night wondering if I had named him the wrong name and should have it changed. Months later I looked at him one day and he was just so “Charlie.” It’s perfect for him and I am glad now that I didn’t change it. But I feel your pain! Naming a child is SO hard!! Blessings to you and your sweet family!

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  27. Michelle Avatar
    Michelle

    I have a good friend who changed her daughter’s name when she was about three months old. She just couldn’t embrace the name they had decided on, and was really struggling with it, and when the baby was about 11 weeks old, my friend just lost it and had this huge meltdown and her ambivalent feelings about the name came out in the wash. Her husband was happy to change it, and they’ve never regretted it and never looked back. So that’s always an option, if you truly aren’t feeling it.

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  28. Jeanelle Avatar
    Jeanelle

    Solvang is a lovly little town. I use to work for a family as a personnal assistant that owned a winery in Solvang. Another little fun town just up the 101 is Pismo Beach. It is a lovely little surf town. I so miss that area. Also, I just had a baby and we don’t call her by her name (August) either. We call her Baby A and I like her name. So…when you look at your sweet little one…what do you think her name should be? What does she look like?

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  29. Alyson Avatar
    Alyson

    Okay, I am really missing Cali right now with all your photos. Did you ever eat a pretzel there with the soft Danish cheese??? That was my all time favorite thing to get as a little kid. Nothing is better than pungent spreadable cheese. Fifteen minutes from there is my hometown of Lompoc, Ca where my Dad still lives. Ten minutes further as you curve down the hill going West is a Mission that is complete with an amazing walking path that loops through and around the grounds. My dad still meets his friends to go walking there in the mornings. I love the drive with the rolling vineyards and plentiful roadside nurseries. Well, I guess things probably have changed since I haven’t been there since I was 14!!
    How wonderful to have both mothers supporting you and pitching in to welcome your new little girl to the family. If you are confident about her name, then she will be too. Be strong, you felt good about that name for a reason.

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  30. Cherry Tree Lane Avatar

    While I am a LARGE fan of Margot (with a “T”)….i also endorse and suggest the following: Iris, Violet and Stella.
    But Margot is FABULOUS and not common at all. Plus, it is easier to learn to write!

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  31. erin Avatar

    i like margot – it is a beautiful name. but, that said, one of my friends changed her baby’s name when she was about three months old because she couldn’t get behind the first one. whatever you choose, it’ll be perfect, just like your little girl.

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  32. Jaime T Avatar
    Jaime T

    I am so jealous that you guys went to Solvang! That is something I really wanted to do before we left California. Too bad. I’ll experience it through you!

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  33. Rachel McKissick Avatar
    Rachel McKissick

    Morgan,
    I just want to let you know that my dear friend Maria had someone opened her car door and stole her purse while she was stoped at a stop light (in LA).
    Now I never go a minute with my car doors open.

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  34. Julie Avatar

    Totally get you about the name thing. Hadley was a no brainer, but after we named Sage I admit I sort of had a lot more anxiety turning that one in. I just kept thinking, I hope that’s okay? I mean I just stuck her with a name – and it’s a spice of all things . . . a couple of times I wanted to change it, but now we’ve settled in and it’s perfect. TMI, but thought I’d let you know that you weren’t the only one with some feelings of buyers remorse on the name. For what it’s worth, I think Margo(silent T) 🙂 is perfect! Love you!

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  35.  Avatar
    Anonymous

    I think Margot is adorable!!! I totally heard a girl named that a while ago and even commented to a friend that I thought the name was extremely cute! I personally think it is a name to be proud of. I’d use it (so you better watch out, or I might steal it ha ha!-I’m not even pregnant)!

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  36. Kimber Avatar
    Kimber

    oops, that last post was me…Kimber

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  37. Kirsten Avatar

    The name thing is the hardest – and now mine is 8 and informs me almost daily that she really wants to change her name…and I never liked it in the first place, either – what do to do? And wow, we drove through Solvang 23 years ago on our honeymoon – I had totally forgotten that cute little town – thanks for the tour!

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  38. caro in canada Avatar
    caro in canada

    i think the problem is that margot doesn’t go with henry. it just doesn’t for some reason. don’t get me wrong – i like the name margot – but it doesn’t seem to suit you. maybe you need to change it to something more old-fashioned. she is so pretty – how about naming her after a flower: lily, rose, poppy, marguerite to name a few. actually, marguerite would be cute and you could call her margot for short…
    caro

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  39. Amanda Avatar

    My little girl’s name is Maryn (mawr-inn, not mare-inn), and I didn’t call her by it for a long time. It was kind of weird. My husband and I usually just called her “sister-girl”. It’s amazing she even knows her name b/c she gets called “sister” as much as she is called “Maryn”. I hope you figure that one out!

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  40. val Avatar

    Names are tough. If you aren’t happy, CHANGE it. I always HATED y name esp my middle name and my mom said ‘oh, how I WISH I had changed it when you were little’….she named me for a friend…but use the sirname…yikes.
    Names are like saddles on your horse. If it is a good one, its GREAT. If it isn’t, it makes you irritable.
    My SIL takes about 2 weeks to name a newborn but she insists on it and I agree. I rolled the names I’d picked around forEVER to make sure I liked the sound of them.

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  41. linda thompson Avatar

    Why not keep her name the way it is… but call her Ryan. She looks like a Ryan… and I personally LOVE the name Ryan for a girl!
    Think about it.
    And then maybe down the years she will decide if she wants to go by her first or middle name.

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  42. Barbara Avatar

    OK. Here’s my two penn’orth. I love my daughter’s name but I wanted to call her something different. My husband disagreed so I went with my 2nd choice. I was telling someone just yesterday how I wished I’d held my ground. And she’s 11! Years ago I gave my son a ‘manly’ name and couldn’t call him it for ages so he got ‘baby’ for the longest time. Then I wished I’d used his more ‘boyish’ middle name but felt it was too late. Of course he’s a man now and his name suits him perfectly well. Ooh it’s so tricksy this naming our children lark!

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  43. jessica Avatar

    One of my favorite weekend trips. I’m so glad you talked about Solvang and called it Danish, not Dutch (my fussy Danish self is always correcting people ;). Paula’s Pancake House is my favorite.

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  44. Lindy Avatar
    Lindy

    i feel you on the name thing–it’s so much pressure! i’m sure you’ll figure something out.
    and, i LOVE solvang! we go there every year when we visit keith’s parents (who live in ojai). it’s just about the cutest little town in america!

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  45. M Avatar
    M

    Hi, i am a Margot (now 36) and i have to admit this name has been a real hassle. In high school I went by Margaux and i really wish i’d had the spelling legally changed then. I’m not crazy about the sound of Mar-go no matter how you spell it, but more people are felled by that silent T than you can imagine. There are some people i’ve know for years who still call me “Mar-goat.”
    I’ve seen elsewhere people saying it can also be turned into “maggot.” I only got a slight bit of that but it’s still not too nice!
    My only advice is tweak the name to Margaux!! or change it.

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